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This area will be dedicated to lessons on change. When you have an addiction you have to actively work on conquering that addiction. You have triggers. Certain things you will never be able to have again. You have to resign yourself to that. It’s not easy. Here you can learn how to make changes. Learn to let go. Once you (I) do that, changes can be made to conquer what has been conquering you (me) for so long.

I’m assuming that some people who are reading this are fighting the same battles. Others know people that are fighting the battle. Others are curious. Whatever the case is, we can all learn. If you don’t have the problem, you will probably run into someone who does at some point in your life. It is not an easy thing to deal with and there is so much more than just eating too much involved. There are so many emotions attached to food. There is so much guilt attached to it. There is so much hatred and so much love. Empathize with them. They’re fighting a battle and working on a bad “relationship” that they can’t ever really escape from. We have to eat in order to survive and yet we need to learn to have a healthy relationship with food.

Sacrifice Is Necessary

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It amazes me that people say they want to lose weight and refuse to do anything to make it happen. It is like saying the words are enough. If that was true, everyone would be skinny. Who doesn’t want to be a healthy weight?

What makes me ask this? A woman at work told me she was interested in the shakes I do and asked how to make them. I explained that I mix the powder with soy milk and then blend with frozen strawberries and Truvia. Her first response was “Ewww! Soy milk! I can’t do that.” I asked her if she had ever tried it and her answer was no. So  I then asked how she could say she didn’t like it if she’d never had it. That didn’t make sense to me.

Here’s the deal, people, if you want to lose weight, you are going to have to make changes. You gained weight because of how you are currently eating. You cannot expect to lose weight eating the same way. It’s not logical. I’m sorry if that offends you. Sacrifice is necessary. You cannot eat biscuits and burgers and expect to lose weight. It is not going to happen. If you have one now and then, that is a different story. But daily? Give me a break. And also quit trying to lie to yourself and say it is possible. It’s not. Most of us are intelligent enough to know this so why people act so shocked by this news astounds me.

Sacrifice is necessary! It is that simple. Start giving up something every day if you have to do it that way. Start adding in something positive. Add more veggies and take out fatty foods. Quit saying you can’t do something if you have never tried it. Quit saying EEWWWW when you have no clue about what something tastes like. For the record, that is something that drives me nuts, especially in adults. Don’t act like you will die if you taste something. You know that the flavor will not kill you. Suck it up, buttercup! Taste it and then make a decision. Quit acting like a baby!

If you want something bad enough, you’ll try for it.

Lesson One: Getting Started

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You want to lose weight. You have considered it. The first thing is to get real. And real SUCKS. I know most people want motivational information. It’s coming. But the bottom line is that when you start getting real you start seeing how bad things are. I know. I am there. It’s daunting, scary and frustrating. So how do you get real? Food diary. I hate them. Essentially you write down everything you eat and drink. I think it is important to do it before you start dieting or start a new “lifestyle” program. Why? You need to see what you were doing. You need an accurate look at what you were putting into your body. It’s harsh and painful. But it is reality. This diary should also include a daily look at how much exercise, if any, you are getting. You have to be brutally honest. (And believe me, I know how painful these truths are.)

As you are putting this info in, you need to be making a plan. When you see those numbers you are going to be upset most likely. So you need to have a plan on how you are going to change. How are you going to eat better and get better calories and meals? What changes are you going to make? P-L-A-N! 

Once you have reviewed the calories from the old lifestyle, start putting the new lifestyle into action. Don’t go crazy either. It is a change. If you are like most people, you are busy. Don’t try to make all these fancy schmancy recipes unless you don’t do anything but cook those fancy schmancy recipes. Do the basics first. Get those down. Then start adding on slowly. When you learn to walk, you don’t start running marathons. You can’t do that with dieting either. You may be a pro at starting and quitting them. So what? This time you need to do it right. This time you need to do it with intention and with purpose. Do it like you mean it. That means you may have to slow your roll on the impressive recipes, but a few great recipes that are mix and match are better than trying hard on several and getting so frustrated that you just quit. Right?

If you want more info on the praises of a food diary, go to WebMD. They have a great article there that explains it wonderfully.

So your first lesson is to:

  1. Review what you were doing that failed you in the past.
  2. Plan for new things.
  3. Make changes.
  4. Go slowly.

Not so terrible, huh?