What a day! Someone said something this morning that disturbed me. I don’t think it was meant to be as disturbing as it was. But it really bothered me. Why is it that people feel that they can say whatever they want to fat people? Just because someone is heavy/fat/overweight or whatever, that doesn’t mean that you should say whatever comes to your mind to them. What do I mean? I said in passing that I wanted to go home and put the heating pad on my back because it was hurting. The comment I got was, “Well, you better do something because if you go to the doctor, you know what they’ll tell you….lose weight and exercise!” I was kind of surprised. This person isn’t a skinny-Minnie. Maybe she was speaking from past experience. But I would have appreciated a “hope you feel better” kind of comment more than that.
But it just really hit home how all through my life people felt they could comment on my weight. And not all of it was constructive criticism. Some of it was outright mean. Why do people feel like they can do that? Fat people have feelings, too. Actually, they may have more feelings! Some people eat to hide pain. Have YOU experienced that? Some say it under the guise of caring. Some actually do care. Some people don’t care. Some people just want to hurt you. Some people act like they’re your personal savior and you’re their project.
This morning really brought up some old hurts. I know this person didn’t mean to do that. But the comment brought up some painful memories. I know I need to lose weight. I don’t think this causing all of my back pain. Part of my back pain is sitting in some of the most uncomfortable chairs ever created for hours on end! But anyway, it was a lot of feeling and thought.